Mini Break Down – Non Monogamy/Polyamory

On July 11, 2017, Posted by , In Knowledge,Mini Breakdown, With No Comments

Firstly, I am not an expert in Polyamory or Non Monogamy. I am as monogamous as they come! That doesn’t mean that I don’t see those who participate in non monogamy as an inferior relationship. I do know that a lot of people do, I would like to put an end to that and have more understand for relationships that may not look like ours.

What is Polyamory aka Non Monogamy?

From the greek word for many, several, and from the latin word for Love.
Poly = Many loves
Here is a definition from our friends at
Polyamory refers to a relationship with multiple mutually consenting sexual partners. However, being polyamorous is not so much about sex as it is about loving more than just one person in a romantic way. Being a person who aligns more with polyamory does not mean that that person is a cheater, or just “making an excuse” to engage in casual sex outside of the primary relationship.
There is no one way to be polyamorous. As long as ALL participants are consenting adults, you can make it work. It may look weird from the outside, but all relationships build their own boundaries and rules. Poly or not.
Jealously still exists in these relationships and they exist in monogamous relationships too. However, in monogamous relationships it is seen as a token of love to be jealous, when it reality jealously can be extremely toxic in a relationship and needs to be worked through.

Now that we know Polyamory isn’t bad or scary.

We need to know that it is NOT for everyone. THAT IS OKAY. I believe that anything, between two or more consenting adults and no one is harmed, is A okay.
That being said not everything is A okay for everyone. Some people have no desire to have sex what so ever, and there is noting wrong or broken about them. (Asexuals)

Check out these great reads on Non-Monogamy and Polyamory:

Content from L. Sara Bysterveld:

She answers to Lindsay and is currently tits-deep in research on poly triads, and if you’re interested in following along or helping her out, check out her website, The Triad Book ( (also catch her Spotlight on Mom interview)

More from Take Back Your Sex:

Dildo or Dildon’t:

In this episode Jack and Carly start off by talking about the various sexual orientations that people identify with. They also discuss polyamory, the workshops and events that Carly has been involved in, her work at adult toy shops, Sybians, anal sex, working as a webcam model and more.

Pretty Pink Lotus Bud:

Embracing my non-monogamous self has been a long road of heartache: lies, guilt, broken trust, and a seemingly endless amount of tears. It has been a battle within myself as well as outside of myself.


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