5 Tips for Doing the Sexy Sex (Ya’know AFTER kids) – Tip 5

On October 3, 2017, Posted by , In Knowledge, With No Comments

Here are 5 Tips for doing the sexy sex after children (whether you had them, adopted them, or they moved in).

This blog post was getting incredibly long, so I split each tip into it’s own blog post. I will release the blog posts every three days so you can really drink in the information before you are hit with another tip.

Please feel free to come back to this blog whenever you need the refresher. These tips are not in order of importance, what is more important is completely up to you.

  1. Get a lock for the door and then stop feeling guilty for having adult time.

  2. Find out what helps you turn off mom mode.

  3. Love your body, or if that isn’t going to work, be OK with your body.

  4. Try something new, and letting go of “normal” sex.

  5. Take time to snack, erotically.

Bonus?

As a note, this is generally for those who are in long term relationships with a couple of kids, no judgement if that isn’t where you are at (or even where you want to be). You can exchange mom with anything that works for you (care giver, demanding career peep, spoonie etc)

Take what you need and leave what you don’t!

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Take time to snack, erotically.

What do I mean by Snacking? I first heard the term Snacking from Midori during the wonderful Explore More Summit (check out that link to hear some of her talk about her great definition of BDSM, unfortunately I don’t have her quote on snacking)

You can be erotic at any moment for just a moment. Some people can do this in the pantry while they sneak some of the chocolate they are hiding from their young. Then it’s sneaky snacking while sexy snacking!

Being sexual and intimate does not have to be an all nighter, or even include penetrative sex!

Some of these comes back to the brakes and accelerator from tip 1. This particular tip is too keep the accelerator warm. If you dip into to arousal here and there, your mind remembers how to get to that feeling. Not to mention the oxytocin (love hormone) that is released when you are enjoying touch, sexual or not, and other bonding opportunities (such as cheering on the same sports team).

Here are some options for erotically charged snacking:

  • Butt/boob grabbing
  • Kissing for three seconds or longer
  • Hugging for 30 seconds or longer
  • Dance in the kitchen
  • Sexy eye contact
  • Hand holding/exploring
  • Back/shoulder/foot rubs
  • Spanking
  • Shower together (wash each others hair, soap each other up etc)
  • Sexy texts
  • 3 Minute Game (the first few times you explore this it won’t be six minutes (you take turns), but it can be done!)

Some of these can super duper fun, and others you may not prefer (especially if you are feeling over touched). Fill out a Want, Will, Won’t list or make a snacking menu!

You can also warm up the accelerator by reading erotica, thinking naughty thoughts, and/or masturbating. I give you permission to explore what feels good to you, even if that feeling is just enjoyed in your mind.

This is a short tip, but it is more of a hand on experience!


Here are those tips again. Remember, if the link doesn’t work that tip hasn’t been published yet.

  1. Get a lock for the door and then stop feeling guilty for having adult time.
  2. Find out what helps you turn off mom mode.
  3. Love your body, or if that isn’t going to work, be OK with your body.
  4. Try something new, and letting go of “normal” sex.
  5. Take time to snack, erotically.

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